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“Hard Work is No Guarantee of Success”

This is a post where I am trying to write to understand and process my thoughts.  I think it is important that we try to make the process of learning visible, not just what we have learned.

One of my favourite speakers of all time is Jim Valvano. His speech at the ESPY’s where his famous words of “don’t give up, don’t ever give up”, remain powerful so many years later. I love watching his other speeches as well, and in this one, he shares something his dad shared with him;

Hard work does not guarantee success, but lack of hard work guarantees that there will be no success.

I have noticed this theme in some articles that have passed through my feed as of late. James Harrison, a football player with the Pittsburgh Steelers known for his amazing work ethic, while also having one of the greatest touchdowns in Super Bowl history, shared how he took the trophies away from his children that they received for participating. He shared this on his Instagram below which has gone viral.

This is not about demeaning the effort of people “showing up”. In myself, I am trying to get back into better shape, but going to the gym is not enough. It is what I do with that time that matters, and how I eat. It is a struggle. Waking up early to go to the gym means something, but not if I slack off while I am there, and do not achieve results.

This is also understanding that winning isn’t everything as well, but how we develop as people under adversity.  As a coach for many years, I would try to communicate to my team that at the end of the year, only one team would ultimately be the “champion”, so if we deemed success as winning it all, we would most likely fail.  But if we looked at how we developed as people, how we would look at working together as a team, and how we were when we faced adversity, those were things that were really important.  How you are when you win and how you are when you lose, in my opinion, are both equally important.

In an article titled, “Iterate, Iterate, Iterate, Innovate”, they share a story of how WD-40 came to be, it shares the name that the “40” comes from the number of times it took to get the formula right.

The term WD-40 is derived from “Water Displacement, 40th formula”.  It was the 40th formula the chemists tried before finding success. The product is produced by the Rocket chemical company and is distributed in over 160 countries.

If the company stops at 39, this is not being shared, but since it kept going, here we are talking about it.

I have shared before that failure is nor the thing that we should be celebrating, but the grit and resiliency to move forward. But “showing up” is only part of the story. I believe that school should be enjoyable, but I also believe that it should be challenging. “Flow” is something that we should constantly strive for in our learning with ourselves and our students, but it takes hard work.

Whether it is “success” or “innovation” or both that we are striving for, the common element is the work ethic that it takes to get to that point up. It goes way beyond showing up, and is important that we help to instill that into ourselves as well as our students.

Feedback or noise?

I don’t know if it is because it is basketball season, but stories from coaching and reffing have been popping up in my head in relation to leadership.  As I was listening to someone tell another story about the “squeaky wheel that gets the grease”, I thought about the coaches you would pay attention to when I was officiating basketball, and why you would really listen.

I remember one game in particular, where we were discussing the game plan as officials before we started, and my partner said, “the coach on the visiting team doesn’t say much, but when he does, you need to listen because it is probably legitimate.”  The coach did not argue every call they didn’t like, but they chose to use their voice when they thought it was imperative.  As hard as it is to admit as a former official, there were many coaches that did the exact opposite and were constantly complaining about every single call that was not in their favour.  In a tense environment, it is hard to acknowledge everything coming your way, and the more spread out you are, the harder the job becomes to do well.  Constant complaining is no longer feedback or “picking your battles”, but it can simply become noise that many choose to drown out.

I have read so many articles written on dealing with the “squeaky wheel”, but there are few that discussing how not to be that person.  In a time where a lot of things are either changing or need to change in education, it is easy to complain about how fast or slow things are going, but after awhile, I know that commentary can go unheard if it is just a constant noise.  In the last little while, I have really tried to think about what is important to bring up and push, and what is not necessary at that moment.  There have been times that I wondered how to deal with the squeaky wheel, but I am also thinking about making sure that when I do say something to others, it doesn’t simply become “noise”.

Success


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I have always wanted to share this story as it has meant so much to me.  It is all true, except I have changed the name of the student involved. Hopefully it can impact you even a percentage of what is has impacted me.

Several years ago, I had a grade 9 student in my math class who was constantly bothered and bugged by other students.  Although it was something that we talked about the kids, and was in no way malicious, it was wrong.  I always knew that.  When I looked at “Chris”, I knew that he was a unique kid and others were missing the gift this student had.  He was extremely intelligent, kind, and had a heart of gold.  How could people not see that?

When Chris was in Grade 10, I was the head coach of the basketball team.  Plainly put, Chris was terrible.  I had seen him play sports before and a few years earlier this was not the type of student I would have encouraged to play on my team.  Higher level sports in high schools, were about doing your best to win.  I had always done my best to get the best athletes on my team.

Knowing Chris wanted to play and knowing that he had these gifts that others didn’t see, I talked to him into playing basketball, hoping that the teasing would not increase when his athletic ability was on full display.  I pulled him aside and said, “Chris, I want you on the team, but I want to be clear that you will not get as much playing time as others.  With that being said, I think that there will be a real benefit for you playing.  Are you okay with this?”.  Chris looked at me and said he wanted to play.

As the season progressed, I made a special point to really take time with Chris and joke around with him the most in front of the kids.  Although he rarely said anything, Chris smiled a lot more then what I was use to.  What I also noticed was that the more that I spent time talking with him, so did the other team.  He was slowly coming out of his shell and his teammates were starting to see the same gifts he had.  He was still a terrible basketball player but with that being said, he worked so hard and pushed others in practice.  That was his role on the team and he did his best to fulfill expectations.

His acceptance by his team led to acceptance by others in school.  I would usually see Chris on his own at lunch, but now he was hanging out with others at lunch.  He not only was sitting with others, but he was actively participating in the conversation.  The more he came out of his shell, the more everyone loved him, including myself.

As the season had come to a close, Chris had not scored a single point.  Not one the entire year.  As we were up in a game by about 20 points, I had put Chris into the game but pulled him aside and said, “I don’t care where you are.  If you get the ball, shoot.” I talked with the others on the floor and said the sole objective was to get Chris to score and we needed to make it happen.

Chris was so unselfish and was not comfortable shooting.  Every time he touched the ball, he passed it to his teammates even though I was on the sideline yelling, “Shoot! Shoot!”.  I called a timeout and told Chris, “You need to shoot.  I need you to score.”  The gym was full and EVERYONE knew what we were doing and started cheering his name.  Chris ended up with the ball about 10 feet behind the 3 point line and I was about 5 feet away from him yelling at him to shoot.  Chris launched the ball into the air in a shot that I would have benched any other player for taking.  I will never forget the arc of the ball as it seemed to hang in the air forever. Then it happened. “SWISH!”  The gym went nuts!

At school the next day, everyone was talking about the shot Chris made and how it was something really special.  After that game, Chris was probably never alone again or without friends.  Everyone saw what I saw and Chris has been doing fantastic things in his adult life.

At the end of that season, after losing out to go to our provincial championships and being devastated, we went back to our school to pack up our stuff.  When we walked out of the gym, I pulled Chris aside and simply said, “Thanks for playing this year.  It was a lot of fun.”  Chris who had barely ever initiated any conversation with me, stopped me and said, “You’re a good coach.”  I immediately had tears.  A kid who had barely played at all, and never saw the floor for probably more than 20 minutes the entire season, told me I was a good coach.  I probably have never had a more meaningful moment in my career.

I would love to say that I was smart enough to have the foresight to see what was going to happen here, but in reality, I just liked Chris and I wanted him to do well.  I didn’t have any clue how his life and my focus would change.  Sports to me was about winning first but Chris taught me so much more.  As my student, Chris taught me that my influence and impact can go far beyond the classroom.  My impact on kids will last for a long time, whether it is good or bad.  I need to always be cognizant of this.  He also taught me about what “success” really means.

Sports and school were never the same for me.  At the end of each season, only one team can win it all.  If that is how you define success, you will fail more than you ever succeed.  Once the focus changed for me though, I found a way for myself and my kids to be successful every single year.

What does success look like to you?