I am probably babbling but here goes…
This week has been tough.
Travel is always wearing on a person, but having to make an impromptu trip home to say goodbye to a long time friend (my dog Shaq), has worn on me. I miss her a great deal and am going to have a hard time going home this weekend and not see her waiting at the door for me, wagging her tail.
The documentation of my life, the ups and downs, in an open space, has been some of the most powerful learning that I have done. Reflection has been extremely therapeutic in dealing with some tough times, but the love of people from around the world that genuinely care and try to make things better for others, has been overwhelming. As I shared one of my last pictures of my sweet girl and I on Instagram, many people sent their condolences and love my way. The “virtual hug”, as always, was greatly appreciated.
From my sharing of this picture, I received several messages from dog lovers who may have given their own pup a little more love, an extra treat, or just spent some great time with them. That loss of life may have reminded others that life is short and fragile, and we need to appreciate all that we have as much as we can. I know that every time I see something similar to what I have shared, it brings me closer to the loved ones in my life.
Sitting in my hotel room alone and trying to deal with a range of emotions that I was going through, from sadness of losing my baby girl, and relief that I had made it home to say goodbye, I casually and almost lifelessly looked through Facebook and twitter to try and pass the time. In a short 24 hours, I saw so much from people that way past “education”, but deeper into humanity.
My good friend Chris Wejr, who is a big of a dog person as I am, really struggled with the idea of bringing another dog home after the loss of his beloved Ozzy. We had several conversations about getting another dog, and I was at the vet saying goodbye to Shaq, Chris was bringing a new dog home to his family.
The hurt of saying goodbye and then the power of saying hello. Sharing death and sharing renewed life. In my loss and grieving, I smiled at my friend who loves dogs, giving one a new home. I was so happy for him and his family.
Then I received a message from Paige that my niece Bea had sent her condolences through a video message to her and I. It stopped me in my tracks.
So much love coming from such a place of sadness that was so powerful. Even though she is so far away, I felt her love and caring, and social media and the literacy of creating a video allowed me to FEEL that.
I woke up the next day wondering how I would make it through an emotional day of speaking to educators. If there is a place that I would feel safe, it with individuals that are in the “people business”, where nurturing and caring is part of what they do. When I had shared what I had went to, they grieved with me, whether they knew me from Twitter or my blog or whatever. Seeing others struggle often brings out the best in others to step up and help, and I knew that I could be vulnerable around them.
But about 15 minutes after I was done speaking, I received a text message from my 9 year old niece, who sent me a picture of her new baby brother. Remembering when she was born and now seeing her send me the news through a text message was a pretty amazing reminder of how time flies by so quickly, and how a mobile phone has allowed us to connect so much more now from when it had existed before. I quickly checked Twitter and Facebook, and saw my brother share the following picture and realized that I had a beautiful new nephew:
Death, life, sadness, and happiness.
All of this was shared in 24 hours from people that are close to me emotionally, yet far in terms of proximity. The humanity that is shared from those simple “tweets” is what brings me so much closer to them, and them to me. The “learning” through social media is great, but the human aspect is why I stay. The willingness to share ourselves is something that is very powerful, yet makes us very vulnerable. I have tried to embrace that vulnerability although sometimes it can be extremely tough.
What I was reminded of in this short amount of time, while I still try to deal with something very tough, is that there is more good than bad out there, and every little share we make can bring us closer together. We have to remember the impact we can make on others, both positive and negative. I am also reminded of how social media can truly “humanize” us, when we deal with the great moments and also the tough ones. That “humanity” can bring us closer together as people than we have ever been before. I was also reminded of the following quote:
“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” Unknown
Every action can make an impact; I am going to try every day to make it a positive one.